There’s a big difference between perfectionists and high achievers… the main one being that perfectionists tend to achieve less and stress more than high achievers.
1: Perfectionists accept nothing less than perfection whilst high achievers are satisfied with doing an excellent job.
2: Perfectionists are more critical of themselves and others, often picking out mistakes and imperfections. High achievers are more supportive of others.
3: Perfectionists tend to beat themselves up if they make a mistake, or don’t achieve perfection, whilst high achievers bounce back fairly quickly after disappointment.
4: Perfectionists procrastinate! They’re so fearful of failure or not meeting expectations, that they often fail to do anything at all.
5: Perfectionists often have a low self-esteem. They tend to be self critical and sometimes lonely as their perfectionism pushes others away. High achievers, on the other hand, tend to have a high self esteem and are confident in their abilities and achievements.
So what can you do about it?
In this 27 min video I give you 5 Steps to stick by:
If you’re too busy to watch that, here’s a brief overview:
- Acknowledge that you[‘re doing it and try to determine why.
- Conduct a “Fear Setting” exercise (explained further in the video).
- Use positive labels for yourself, not negative ie. You currently have perfectionist behaviours that you want to (and are able to) change.
- Adjust your self talk – be very mindful of that little voice in your head and the exact words it is using.
- Don’t procrastinate! Set deadlines and set minimalistic tasks which are more realistic.